Without sounding like one of those snobby \”everyone is bandwagoning I\’m an OG fan\” people, I felt cool to be reading Mark Manson\’s blog for a year before this book came out and became really popular. He developed the book out of a blog post of the same name and it was interesting to see how he pulled different ideas from several posts to create the structure of the book. Even though most of the messages sounded familiar, it was just as fun reading the book because of how entertaining Manson\’s writing tone is. As you can assume from the title, he curses a lot in his writing and it\’s in a very conversational style. It\’s been a bestseller since it came out and this hard-hitting yet light tone is a large part of why.
I recommend the book for anyone and here are some of my notes to get you started.
All self-help fixates on what you lack-be healthier, be happier, be wealthier because you don’t have enough
The world is telling you more more more to give a fuck about everything because that’s good for business
Feeling shitty, anxious, afraid, guilty is okay just don’t give a fuck and move on
The desire for positive experiences is a negative experience the acceptance of negative experiences is a positive experience.
Camus-you will never be happy if you search for what happiness consists of… you will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life
Life problems are side effects of not having something more important in your life
Find that meaningful something or fucks will be given to frivolous causes
Happiness comes from solving problems, it’s an action
Emotions- signs to nudge you in the direction of beneficial change
Just because something feels bad doesn’t mean it is bad
What are you willing to struggle for?
The inundation of the exceptional makes people feel worse about themselves, makes them feel that they need to be more extreme, more self-assured to get noticed or even matter, unrealistic media compiles onto existing insecurities
Values determine the nature of our problems, problems determine the quality of our lives
Freud-One day the years of struggle will strike you as the most beautiful
Certainty is the enemy of growth because the human mind is a jumble of inaccuracy
Our mind wants to interpret experiences to align with all of our previous feelings and experiences
You can only be successful at something you are willing to fail at